Acts of Kindness

The second love language that I want to talk about is Acts of Kindness. It’s pretty self explanatory. You do things because your partner or whomever appreciates it. But you may be confused to what these acts are. Well there’s a limitless list & ideas that you can do to show your love. This love language is about action. About doing something for your loved one that makes them feel good & appreciated.

These acts can range from doing house chores, cooking to favours & requests. Most often this can be portrayed as doing everything & feeling like a “door mat.” But it doesn’t need to be thought like that from now on. First you need to identify that they are not taking advantage of you. There’s a huge difference in manipulation buy guilt or coercion by fear. This by all means no way to build any relationship. They are essentially suppressing your power & why would you even want to be in that type relationship with anyone? You deserve better. You deserve love.

When Gary talks about “Acts of Kindness,” he defines it as “doing things you know your spouse would like you to do.” By serving them to express your love for them by doing things. I know it may very vague & general, but it could also mean that it’s so easy for you to fill their “love tank” up. It can be from all the little things to dealing with the much greater things, while our partners is busy or not home. That’s cool right? You can literally do anything to make your partner feel appreciated. Now that’s next level power of love. Now, I’m not saying to be a “servant.” What I’m saying is that it’s so powerful to be a person of action & literally everything you do for your partner is correlated to their “love tank.” Amazing. Can be mailing something, walking the dog, dealing with people that they don’t want to deal with. Ideally any task really.

If this is your partners love language, ask them if it’s meaningful for them, for you do these tasks. & if they feel appreciated or loved by you doing them. Because there can be a difference, we may think that this is what they want & they still bitch about something else. Chances are this is not their love language. If this is their love language they will tell you exactly how they feel loved by you doing “all those little things.” We need to understand if this if their love language because then we are wasting time & energy where it is not meaningful. It also means that you need to step out of your comfort zone to start doing things. Just noticed if your relationship changed because you stopped doing things or started & if you need to be doing them more often. Just become aware what language best suits your partner!